There's a whole string of posts going on in blogland about whether or not gaining weight after marriage is False Advertising.
I wrote about it in my blog, here, and this is a really great post that references a bunch of other bloggers who wrote about it. I'm curious what you guys think?? It'll take some reading, but if you go to my blog I link to the original post.
I think the whole debate is incredibly fascinating. What do you think??
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What about a man who farts in bed...I call that false advertising. Or was that in the fine print of the deal? How about dirty underware on the floor? (Not my man....but I have heard) Ok, this is my first reaction, I haven't read the article yet, Paige, but I will and I will respond again after I do!
Jules
Wow, you've certainly opened a can of worms. I've visited a few blogs like you suggested, and this is what I have to say: I do not think that it is false advertising. Almost every living person puts on some weight after entering into marriage. It is a comfort thing. And certainly after having children, a woman's body will never be the same. Every seven years your body goes through a major change. Gravity takes advantage over the years as well. We ALL change. But I don't think excessive weight gain is a good thing. I think we should try and do our best to stay in shape. Not just for our husbands, or our families, but for OURSELVES. I am nearly 38 years old, I have born four children, and I have been severely overweight. I also had been in denial about my size. I think that if everyone took a good hard look at where they are at, and where they want to be, almost no one would be satisfied. But I'm working on it, I'm working hard on attaining my goal. And I'm all the happier for it.
Kristina
Hee Hee - You are so funny!
I've had this discussion with friends (mainly guys) over the years and I think there is some feeling of dissatisfaction when the woman you marry changes into someone you wouldn't even date (physically).
But, I also believe that we have to make sure our priorities in marrying someone are solid. Yes, we must have physical attraction, but what about if that fades? Where then is the basis for the 'product sale'?
This issue seems to affect men more than women as women seem to change WAY more than men do in marriage. Not that Ernie hasn't lost his six pack and now has a KEG...but you hear me...
I love that you were bold enough to put that blog point in!
There are enough jokes to where I don't believe it. "What's the difference between a wife and a girlfriend? About 15 pounds." There are X-rated versions as well. I'm with Kristina - it's commonly known that marriage brings with it a comfort that frequently extends the waistline. With the commonplace occurrence of a little nuptial weight gain, no one should be surprised if it happens to their spouse.
I never thought I would say this in relation to a marriage, but I think the rule of caveat emptor clearly applies.
Ok, it is Sunday afternoon and my life has slowed down enough to read the posts.
Paige, the honest truth is that I agree with both points of view.
There. How is that for diplomacy and indecision?
I was overweight when I married Blake, by about 40 lbs. I just kept putting on weight after babies until I got fed up after baby #3. Then I lost about 60 lbs., weighed 20 lbs. less than our wedding date, but was still about 20-25 lbs. overweight.
Blake was so happy that I was getting healthier, he loved the new body, and was just getting used to this great shrinking woman...then you guessed it, we got prego again! OH NO! And even though I didn't go too crazy during pregnancy, the post partem depression did me in and the pounds just came back on.
I started getting serious about the weight loss 6 months after baby #5. I have lost about 38 lbs. still working on it, and one of my biggest motivations is to give my husband the body he always wanted to have on his arm. I can do this with joy because he has never DEMANDED it. Incredibly, he has always loved me for reasons other than my bod, even though I know that if he chose to, he could make it a big issue.
I like what Elicia said about becoming women they would not even date...yikes. Blake made that decision with me before we said I DO. Now that I am done having the kids...I can give him the gift of a healthy, attractive, vibrant wife.
Jules
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